Holidays and Happiness

Holidays can be especially unhappy for many. The chronically ill may feel an intensified expectation to be merry and celebrate when they can do neither. This adds a sense of guilt to their already-miserable state. The spouses of those afflicted have similar feelings, and feel the sad weight of obligation placed on "the healthy one."

Consider these poor souls during the holidays. (1) Don't expect them to be happy. (2) Love them no matter how they feel. (3) Serve them in ways appropriate to their limits; that is, do not expect them to meet your conditions for gift. You may love to dine out, while they cannot do it. If so, bring them food or ask them what they need. (4) Pray for them, trying to put yourself in their place.