Friday, April 2, 2010
A Small Piece of Advice
To those of you who know the spouses of the chronically ill, I have a piece of advice. While we are grateful that you are concerned about our spouses, it is often painful to have to tell people over and over that our spouses are no better or even worse. We are happy to just avoid the issue sometimes. So, please do not always bring it up. Ask us about other things.
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As one of the chronically ill I also have a piece of advice. While we are grateful that you are concerned about us, it is often painful to tell people over and over we are no better or even worse. We feel we have to lie about it and in doing so se up false expectations as well as not being true to what is going on with us.
ReplyDeleteWe appreciate support, if you can give it, but not if it comes with repeated questions about how we are. Be joyous with our good days and understanding of our bad.
Thank you.
Ken:
ReplyDeleteYes, you and others have much more to talk about than illness! If you don't, something is wrong. God bless you. Doug